WILMINGTON, NC, December 02, 2021 /24-7PressRelease/ — There is a difference between healthy, authentic pride and arrogance. In an article in Psychology Today, printed June 29, 2014, Guy Winch Ph.D. writes in part:
“Psychologists distinguish between two kinds of pride. Authentic pride arises when we feel good about ourselves, confident, and productive, related to socially desirable personality traits, such as being agreeable, conscientious, and emotionally stable.
“Hubristic pride, sometimes referred to self-centered pride, is egotism and arrogance at its best, often exhibited in undesirable traits such as becoming contrary, disagreeable, aggressive, having low or brittle self-esteem—and being prone to shame.”
And as Harriet Hunter, best-selling author of Miracles of Recovery recently wrote, “Arrogance is insecurity wrapped up to appear to be pride.”
Self-centered pride and arrogance lie at the very core of judging other people and putting other people down without cause. Both create an illusion of elevated self-worth, fed by the unwarranted belief that one is better or more worthy than other people.
While pride and arrogance can be a problem for any one of us, they are especially detrimental to the alcoholic or drug addict. In a recent article posted on her site, Hunter offered 6 actions the alcoholic or addict can do to overcome self-centered pride:
* Stop denying. Anytime we deny our truth, we hurt ourselves. Denial sends the message that either we are not strong enough to find or to face our truth, or we feel we are not deserving to stand up for our self which is our truth.
* Share our truth with others so that everyone can hear in a non-threatening yet honest way.
* Admit our mistakes to others. Yes, we all make mistakes and thank goodness. If we never made mistakes, not only would we be in denial, but self-centered pride would continue to keep us stuck, wearing the garb that protects the world from seeing we were not perfect. Ego would suffocate any chance of our own candidness.
*Give Credit where Credit is Deserved. That’s right. When we were locked into the guise of pride, we would never think of deferring to others and salute their success. Why, we wanted all the glory for ourselves! We handled it all, didn’t we?
It’s interesting how giving credit to those deserving sometimes works. When the show unfolds as planned, we stood up, took a bow, and took credit for every aspect of the work. But when the show plummeted, we turned to whoever was around us and spouted that it was someone else’s fault things failed!
* Practice Active Listening. There is so much communication on any day whirling around us, we take for granted, presume we are listening when, in reality, we already know how we want to respond, what it is we need to say and how we need to say it. Without active listening, we cut off before they even finish their sentence.
* Get Rid of False Beliefs: When we do not give ourselves sufficient nurturing, it is impossible for us to see the baggage we still carry around inside us, called false beliefs. We grew up with them. Who knows where they came from, parents, teachers, friends. Some false beliefs are:
I’ve been doing it this way for years:
I don’t need any help. I can handle it myself;
If it’s not broke, don’t fix it
I don’t need anyone, I’m just fine;
Emotions are for sissy’s. You don’t need to see mine.
No one has ever complained before now!
They’ll never get rid of me, they need me too much;
More information on this and many other topics is available at Hunter’s website at https://www.harriethunter.org.
While there are many treatment approaches and programs, what is common to all successful individuals within a substance abuse program is the shared pain and the loneliness, oftentimes with an ongoing support system for the person battling the disease. That support system is what Harriet Hunter offers in “Miracles of Recovery: Daily Meditations of Hope, Courage and Faith.”
Featuring 365-daily inspirations. Miracles of Recovery was written not just for those addicted, but for the parents, the spouses – anyone touched by the disease because addiction is absolutely a family affair. Using the foundation of 12-Step Recovery, Miracles of Recovery embraces holistic suggestions as a practical approach for those who must face life on life’s terms, clean and sober. Encouraging and thought-provoking, Miracles of Recovery inspires with Universal Truths, “because,” Harriet says, “Once we know better, we do better.”
Miracles of Recovery is written to show through personal examples how to achieve long-term sobriety by embracing new behavior and positive reinforcement, regardless of what happens in one’s life. She offers a personal, sometimes raw reflection of the truth about addiction seldom seen elsewhere.
Tools necessary to maintain sobriety and change one’s life through changing one’s perspective are also proposed. Miracles of Recovery suggests that readers “Do life differently,” through exercises, solutions, and methods to improve self-esteem, confidence, and embrace a profound sense of hope needed to succeed. The author spurs the reader to embrace the belief that, regardless of challenges life presents, “NOTHING can change the course of recovery when you keep yourself, your sobriety, and your Higher Power first in your life.” In short, Miracles of Recovery offers hope where there is none through a simple program of actions for complicated people.
Hunter has received rave reviews for her work from readers and reviewers alike. Vernita Taylor of Readers Favorite stated, “Miracles of Recovery: Daily Meditations of Hope, Courage, and Faith by Harriet Hunter is a great choice if you’re struggling with addiction because it offers a full year of inspiration and affirmations which I enjoyed. I see this book as a mentor or sponsor that is walking by your side and helping to lead you to a better, more improved you while teaching you how to deal with your stressors. The best teacher is someone who has been there and done that, and this book doesn’t disappoint. The author knows first-hand what it takes and how it feels to be addicted, and the journey to recovery. If you need help along your journey, pick up a copy of this book; it’s highly recommended.”
Anthony Capozzolli of Dismantled Life Podcast said, “Miracles of Recovery has been a feast for my recovering soul. Every page is filled with love and helpful insights that lead to discovery. I read each page by date and randomly turn to other pages for an additional spiritual hug when I need one. It’s almost as if Harriet wrote her wonderful book for me. Page after page hits so close to home I often tear up from positive awareness and clarity of emotion.”
Miracles of Recovery received the first place President’s Award in nonfiction from the Florida Authors and Publishers Association.
Since her walk into recovery in 1999, Harriet has had one primary purpose: to show others how they can achieve their miracles while staying sober with a vision and determination to never go backwards, one day at a time.
Using her experience strength and hope, Harriet strives to be a conduit of encouragement to others in their disease of alcoholism and drugs of choice, by showing them what continues to work. With practical tools, principles and promises as found in A.A., and other 12-step programs, she mirrors examples of how anyone can be free from the bondage of self, regardless of their situation.
With each purchase of a personalized autograph copy of Miracles of Recovery from her website, Hunter provides a no-charge copy of her e-book, “Your Daily Reprieve; How To Maintain Long-Term Sobriety Serenely Just For Today” in PDF format.
Harriet Hunter has developed a six-module course for individuals who thrive on personal insight and emotional growth as they seek to connect the dots of their lives. Journaling with a Purpose! is a thought-provoking, sometimes intensive exercise for self-seekers who want more from lives. Its focus is both emotionally therapeutic and entertaining, as participants look inside themselves for resilient, positive changes to solutions and characteristics they expect more from. Harriet is never far away. She hosts web-based meetings, while delivering videos, offers no-charge gifts, handouts and many prompts that encourages and explains what the writer can expect with each module.
Details are available at her website at https://www.harriethunter.org.
Harriet Hunter is available for media interviews and speaking engagements and can be contacted using the information below or by email at [email protected]. More information, including the journaling course, no-charge audios, e-books, handouts and other gifts can be found by visiting https://www.harriethunter.org.
About Harriet Hunter:
With over 21 years of sobriety, Harriet has worked with hundreds of women who suffer with alcoholism and drug addiction to help them find peace in active sobriety. She facilitates AA meetings for women incarcerated, and sponsors women both face-to-face and online. Readers can find her in the global recovery site, Intherooms.com, where she’s been given her own room and brings Miracles to life each Sunday at 2:00 P.M. EST.
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